The Seven Steps to Happiness

Almost every person on this planet could be happy, if they really wanted to be. The biggest barrier is internal belief, the thought system that we all carry around in our head. Most unhappy people believe, way down inside where it counts, that they are destined to be unhappy and that worry and depression are “correct” for them. Why? Because they were trained to be unhappy by all the people who raised them, and by most of the circumstances of their childhood.

Bottom line for you… you can become much happier if you want to. You have it in your power. But you have to work at it. You have to undertake a long term project that requires time, energy, attention and commitment. But the payoff is huge. You learn to have a positive attitude, peace of mind and serenity in your life, even under adverse circumstance. It’s worth it.

I’ve been a psychotherapist and hypnotherapist for many, many years now. I have worked with a lot of people and have helped them become happier. Here’s what I have learned about the seven steps to happiness:

First, you must really want to become a happy person. You have been on this planet for a while, and you are pretty familiar with who you are. You know what you like and what you don’t, you have a personality which means a fairly predictable way of reacting, and you are comfortable with who you are. For the most part. Change is a threat. It makes you uneasy. So you have to make a decision; a decision to try new ways of doing and thinking, and to override your innate conservatism and hesitation. Not easy, but worth it.

Second step is to accept the belief that it is possible for you to be happy.

This involves a change in your subconscious mind, that part of your mind that is ordinarily outside your awareness. It involves a total reversal of everything you were taught as a young child about yourself, your life, what is correct for you, and your future. It’s an epiphany, an opening of your soul. Possible triggers are long term psychotherapy, a traumatic event in your life, a religious awakening, or possible part of your natural maturing. This awareness can also come to you through mediation, and especially guided meditation recordings.

If you get this far, you have covered the most difficult part. You have made the conscious decision to become a happier person, and you have accepted the belief that this is possible for you. Congratulations!

Now we get down to business. The third step is to start exploring the ways to becoming a happy person. Read books on the subject, search the web, talk to friends, go into therapy, look for a teacher, learn Yoga, meditate, join a new and interesting organization, travel to a foreign country that is new to you, learn a new skill, go on a religious retreat. Try any number of things and find the one or two that are right for you.

The fourth step is to achieve success with one of the approaches that you try. Doesn’t have to be anything major. Just a perceptible improvement in your personal happiness. Maybe you wake up looking forward to the day ahead. Even if it happens only occasionally. Just enough to know that you are on the right track.

The fifth step is an important decision point. You now know that you have it within your power to become happier. Do you want to proceed? Or do you want to stay like you have been, which is probably,much more comfortable short term. Or do you want to strike out and embark on the path to true happiness? It’s up to you. I think that you already know what I would advise.

Six; commit to your path to happiness. Prepare a plan in writing and include a rough schedule. Set out the steps you will take. Review your plan a few times, then sign and date. Talk about your plan with a few trusted friends, your husband or wife, people really important to you. You have now committed to the path of happiness.

Seventh and last; start on the path you have set out for yourself. Take the time you need, change your course as you learn what works and what doesn’t. Be prepared for surprise. Become an adventurer in life!

There is an excessive amount of traffic coming from your Region.

This year treat yourself to an extra weekend away or add a little extra to your annual trip with six nations’ tours. With breaks available in Paris, Cardiff, Edinburgh, Dublin, Rome, London you will be sure to visit somewhere new or discover a different part of a familiar city. With six nations tours you can support your team and country home or away. If you watch the games on television each year and always think to yourself I wish I was there in all the excitement, then this is the year you live that dream. You can be in the middle and one of those thousands of elated fans. If you are one of the lucky ones you may even see your team to victory and be part of the history.

For something different travel to Dublin for a game or two. It is a perfect destination for a quick getaway as its close by but still with a new culture to immerse yourself in. Dublin is a traditional city offering some of the best in Irish, music, art, literature, folklore, cuisine and sport. There are many museums, monuments and churches as well as classic authentic Irish pubs where you can learn the local history and appreciate the local beer.

Unwind with a cold pint of Guinness, before the big match. The city has lots to offer from the green parks such as St. Stevens green and the modern architecture like the spire of Dublin your camera will be happy with lots of beauty to capture.

The six nations matches are played at the Aviva stadium in Dublin just 6 minutes by car from the city centre and 30 minutes if your on foot. It’s central location is great as you can stay close to all the popular attractions and places of interest and not have to worry about leaving enough traveling time or the tiring task of finding the right public transport. For those who prefer to stay by the stadium there are many hotels and a train station in the area or if you want to stay out of the busy city, travel a few miles out into the country side for its ancient ruins or a small fishing town for its delicious sea food.

Six nation tours will give that extra kick to your regular city break so don’t go far or break the bank, stay local and revel in the tradition of Ireland and all the wonders it has to offer.